An Open Letter to Lauren Daigle

Dear Lauren,

First, I want to say that I LOVE your voice! What a gift from God. Thank you for sharing it with us. Thank you for using it to glorify the Lord and help us praise Him.

Second, I want to tell you that your song I Will Trust in You resonated with me in a way that few songs have. It was released in 2015 during a time when I was struggling with my faith. I mean, truly struggling with trusting God when He didn’t answer any of my prayers for a very long time. Many of those prayers remain unanswered three years later, but through my struggle, I came to the same conclusion as your song. I will trust Him no matter what. That’s easy to say but hard to live out. It is easy to say when you haven’t endured deep and painful trials. But, girlfriend, I’ve been through some stuff and I’m still going through some stuff and I can say I am going to trust Him through it all – even if He never answers my prayers. Why? Because He is worthy!

The next thing I want to tell you is that I love Ellen Degeneres! If she asked me to appear on her show, I’d do it in a skinny minute. She is kind, generous, fun, and HY-larious. I love her. I am sorry that you received criticism for appearing on her show. I don’t understand the basis of the criticism, but I do know this – when you are in the public eye you have to be ready for criticism. Unfounded, unbiblical, unwarranted, unfair criticism. (I am a pastor’s wife. Need I say more?) When I was very young, I heard a preacher say that in every criticism there is a grain of truth. He said to search for that grain, deal with it, and then throw the rest out. I cannot tell you how well that piece of godly wisdom has served me over the years. Sometimes that grain is almost imperceptible, but when your heart is to be holy and righteous before God, He will use unfair criticism to help you grow.

I also want you to know that I, too, have many loved ones who are homosexuals. There is a homosexual couple in my family who have been together longer than many of my other family members. We love them dearly and have shown them through the years that we love and accept them. One of my daughter’s closest friends is a homosexual. The other day my husband was at her place of employment and as he drove away, she said “I love you!” He hollered back, “I love you, too!” There are more in our lives, of course. I just wanted you to know that I understand where you’re coming from when you say that there are people that you deeply love who are homosexual. Same here.

Now here’s the big one that you’re getting blasted for… your response to the question, “Is homosexuality a sin?” From what I understand, your response was basically, “I don’t know. There are many people that I love who are homosexuals.” There is absolutely nothing wrong or unbiblical about that response.

Not knowing what the Bible says about a topic is not a sin. I have been a serious student of the Word of God for over 40 years, and there is still so much that I don’t know. The rich depths of the inspired, infallible, holy canon of Scripture cannot be fully mined this side of heaven. We can try, and we should try (2 Timothy 2:15), but we will not know it fully until we see the Author face to face.

Once we are confronted with our lack of biblical knowledge on a particular topic, I believe we are obligated to discover the answer. When someone asks us a question about what the Bible says and our answer is, “I don’t know,” the next thing we should say is, “But I will find out!” So I encourage you to start digging in. I would love to sit down with you and reason through the Scriptures together. Since that is unlikely to happen anywhere except in my dreams, please know that there are excellent study tools that can assist you to discover Truth for yourself. Don’t start with commentaries or books about the Bible. Just get out the Bible and look up every mention of whatever topic you want to know about. ( is great for this.) The Bible itself is the best place to start. And prayer. Never open the Word without first asking the Holy Spirit to guide you. That’s one of His favorite things to do.

I also want to caution you to not let your feelings guide your theology. That is the choice that I had to make back in 2015 when I felt like God didn’t love me or hear me and had forsaken me. I had to run to His Word and see who He says He is. I could not base my theology on my feelings because I frequently felt like God hated me. According to His Word, He loves me with an everlasting love and He will never ever leave me. I had to decide if I was going to believe what I felt about God or what He says about Himself in His Word. I decided to accept His unchanging Word. That is an important decision that each person must make. What do I believe and what do I base my belief upon?

So, sweet sister, be encouraged. You are loved – by God and by many others, including me! You have been given a large public platform, and that is a huge responsibility. Seek God with your whole heart. Ask Him the hard questions. He can handle it. Dig deep into the Word of God and study it for yourself. When someone asks a question and you don’t know a biblical answer, dig deeper. Through prayer and study, decide what you believe and why you believe it. I hope you will come to the same conclusion that I did – to believe and trust in God and His Word no matter what because He is worthy!

I promise that I will be praying for you.

Much love and many prayers from your sister in Christ,



9 Comments Add yours

  1. Child of God says:

    So said. And smwhat a turn from God to serve the world. So sad. Yet this is prophesy coming to pass as the world christian: broad road: becomes the majority and the True Believer and Follower of Jesus’s Christ becomes the minority: narrow road.


    1. Kari Dent says:

      I’m sorry but I don’t see where Lauren has turned from God to serve the world. She expressed her ignorance of God’s Word on a particular subject. All of us are at different places in our walk, and there was a time when I would not have been able to give an intelligent, biblical answer to the question she was asked. Pray with me that this controversy spurs her on to a greater knowledge of God and His Word.

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  2. Jayne Rout says:

    Your counsel is wise. God loves us all. One sin isn’t worse than the other from what I read, and I am challenged that striving in my own strength for God instead of resting in Him is the same in His sight as overdrinking,lying,yes, and homosexuality. My brother and other friends of mine are homosexual. I have Christian friends that drink and berate their loved ones, my ex husband used to be violent to me and he was a youth pastor. When will God’s church stop and read and stand up as Lauren and yourself have and speak God’s love. Jesus died for all sin. Thankyou so much for your post


  3. Lena Rae says:

    Awesome post Kari! You inspire me to excellence.


    1. Kari Dent says:

      Aww, thanks! We’re all learning and growing together. ❤

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  4. Oh, I really hope Lauren reads this. She needs to know that not every Christian wants to throw stones at her for the honest way she answered that question. Your advice to her from your heart is spot on!


  5. Christy says:

    Thank you so much for tjis. My husband’s sister is gay and a few years ago we left our church because the pastor there confronted my husband and I about it. My sister in law knows our beliefs and where we stand, but that does not mean we do not love her. The pastor at the church wanted us to bring hell, fire, and brimstone down on her. I was not raised that way. I was taught that Jesus loves everybody no matter what and I should do the same. My husband and I left our church because of how that pastor began to treat my family and I. Your letter to Lauren is beautiful and it was just what I needed to read.


    1. Kari Dent says:

      Thank you for your kind words. I’m not sure what your former pastor’s thought process was, but you and your husband are not responsible for the decisions that other adults make – not even your adult children. You are absolutely right to love her. Whenever God gives us opportunities to share truth from His Word, then we should share it. The Holy Spirit has His job, and we have ours. I think that pastor was confused about which job was his and which job was His. Blessings.


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